Tuesday, November 22, 2011

What advice would you give to a socially inept person?

I have a friend who never really learned how to socialize. I'm not saying that in a bad way, but it's just the truth. He's asked for advice on how to make friends, keep friends, interact, and all that.





My question is, what advice would you give to such a person? I'm writing out a paper for this.





Please don't critisize me for doing this; He specifically asked for help with this and I'm doing the best I can to help. Thanks in advance!What advice would you give to a socially inept person?
Loosen up, and meet as many different people as possible. That's how everybody who ever lived learned any social graces. And remember that most of us are too worried about our own hangups and awkwardness to notice yours.What advice would you give to a socially inept person?
I'd suggest knowing the rules, program of the event he wants to attend. Homework, and practice.


Learn to dance. Learn to dress and eat - and practice before going out with people that know him.


Learn about the story in English before attending opera for the first time. Learn what to expect before going to big events like that too.


Read the newspaper front to back. Sports, local news - and read current and classic books.


Understand double entendres and puns, and why Simpson's and South Park are funny verbally like understanding Popeye verbally - not just visual jokes. Words are important. Don't open your mouth unless you can contribute to the subject being talked about. As guys never talk about shades of nail polish or who designed what gown - usually because guys never practice this knowledge. Stereotypes are also to be avoided - as women can weld and many are mechanically minded as any man. And visa versa - some men do know fashion, make up.


Oh, my is it too late to have his Dad and Mom talk to him about all this stuff? From a family moral point of view, traditions, etc.


He should have been paying attention when he was 4,5, 6,7,8, as each year brings more to practice. By 12 there are dances. By middle school there is cliches and groups form.


Also there is rural, subburbian, city type stuff I do not know about. Can he tip a cow? Does he know what chip throwing is? Does he know train/bus schedules and can move around town?








I hope this is of some help.
he needs to talk to a psychiatrist who can give him medication and help for his mental condition.
Maybe this person is just shy. It is hard to say because what works for one doesn't work for everyone, but they could start by opening up in social situations. They can start out small by just choosing one person to interact with. Make sure they are up on their current events so when things come up they can give their opinion and join into the conversation. Most of all they can be the one to invite someone out or over to their house rather than waiting for an invitation.
I think casual, encouraging pointers along the way would help him.


like for example, if you are in the mall with him and you witness some person making a gesture that is more ';advanced'; in terms of social etiquette and bring his attention to it and tell him to notice what the person did. be friendly and nice about it.
Every day, do something kind for someone.
maybe some sociology books may be a good place for him to start. Is it possible that he is just shy? Whay has he not learned how to interact? If he grew up/lived in a society he must have. Maybe he just THINKS he does not know how but really just has a different way about it.
I say, as a friend of his, to be a parent for him in some regards. People who are socially inept just didn't socialize as much growing up, by choice or not. They're just behind everyone else, and need to learn how to get by. I know plenty of shy people who are perfectly sociable. Don't be afraid to tell him how things work. Give reinforcement and if it seem slike he needs guidance, give it to him. He's just gotta learn. And his ineptitude has probably caused some anxiety when it comes to his self confidence and social situations. Make sure he knows that we're all individuals, and people are allowed to act how they want, but there are some basic rules we all need to follow to function in society, retain friendships and gain respect from others.

What's the best piece of 'alternative' green advice you would give young people?

I'm looking for different ideas to tackle the problem - ie unusual ways to help save the environment that people don't normally consider - not just the usual ';switch off lights, take the bus and re-use everything'; Any wide ranging suggestions would help!What's the best piece of 'alternative' green advice you would give young people?
I'm just wondering how many are aware of ';NASA's Clean Air Plant Study'; completed several years ago? http://www.zone10.com/tech/NASA/Fyh.htm





';Common indoor plants may provide a valuable weapon in the fight against rising levels of indoor air pollution. Those plants in your office or home are not only decorative, but NASA scientists are finding them to be surprisingly useful in absorbing potentially harmful gases and cleaning the air inside modern buildings.';





';NASA research has consistently shown that living, green and flowering plants can remove several toxic chemicals from the air in building interiors. You can use plants in your home or office to improve the quality of the air to make it a more pleasant place to live and work - where people feel better, perform better, and enjoy life more.';





TOP 10 plants most effective in removing: formaldehyde, benzene, and carbon monoxide from the air.





Common Name - Scientific Name


Bamboo Palm - Chamaedorea Seifritzii


Chinese Evergreen - Aglaonema Modestum


English Ivy - Hedera Helix


Gerbera Daisy - Gerbera Jamesonii


Janet Craig - Dracaena ';Janet Craig';


Marginata - Dracaena Marginata


Mass cane/Corn Plant - Dracaena Massangeana


Mother-in-Law's Tongue - Sansevieria Laurentii


Pot Mum - Chrysantheium morifolium


Peace Lily - Spathiphyllum ';Mauna Loa';


Warneckii - Dracaena ';Warneckii';





Always think out of the box and keep in mind that your health is your wealth.What's the best piece of 'alternative' green advice you would give young people?
Hey, I'm working on a website about going green. Could you write an article on ways to go green? I saw your answer, it was very interesting. If you decide to write an article can you include your full name and sources, if you used any.


Thank you

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Please listen carefully. The amount of evidence AGAINST global warming as a theory is massive and mounting each day. We are in a cycle that occurs naturally and often.





Any scientist that goes against the theory of global warming is sacked immediately though and the media is controlled not to report otherwise.





Even the co-founder of Greenpeace states openly it's all nonsense.





That's about as 'alternative' as it gets.





Please research it, and open your eyes to the lies.





Try YouTube or Google and search it!
Apart from the excessive amount of wind they appear to need to reduce. (Lay off the baked beans :o)





Youth is no different to adulthood. You don't say switch off a light or close a door, you say leaving a light on is costing you this or it costs this to heat a room.





Your audience has a mind set that revolves around money, that is the society we live in. Talk Pounds and Pence not idealism.





If I wanted to promote vermiculture in home composting, I'm going to get a lot more interest telling people that the local fishing shop will buy their surplus worms and worm casts are fertiliser than I will saying its your personal effort to save the planet.
take your rubbish home with you and dispose of it properly - keep a spare carrier bag in your bag for exactly this purpose;





don't pick wild flowers or dig up plants to take home with you - take a picture, it'll last longer;





do'nt damage trees, hedges, fences, or anything that you don't own;





water is the most valuable recyclable resource, and the easiest to recycle - use less and get water butts - even balconies can get these, I've read, though I don't know from where; there are also small composters for balconies;





it's never ';someone else's problem'; - it's yours, mine and everyone else's!





Ours is about the last generation that can make a difference - act so your grandchildren's grandchildren will bless you rather than ask, ';why didn't they do something when there was a chance to change things?';
I've explained to my kids that climate has always changed, and that it always will. Every dinosaur book has geologic timelines that even little tykes can understand.





That way, they're not freaked out when Leftist Political Whores incessantly claim the world will end if we don't turn off our cars.





Now THAT'S alternative green advice.
you could tell them about the different bargain you could get by buying from farmer's markets instead of those store bought fruits and vegetables because the government would pay less money to use pesticides on farms or fields and that will help the environment a lot





and like the others said ask them to fart less :D
I tell my kids that global warming is a farce, and while it is a noble idea to live green, what the individual does, will not amount to a ';hill of beans'; All you are doing is paying more money for ';green'; products, and being ripped off by the companies.





And like the fellow above says...fart less
Don't waste energy!


Don't waste paper!


Don't spend too much time at PCs and TV!


Recycle!


Try to fill your balconies with as more plants as you can!





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My best advice:


1. Never believe the media or anyone that claims to be an ';Environmentalist';


2. Study and learn the facts. Do the math and make sure it all adds up.


3. Never take action on ';Feelings';
Buy second-hand clothes and use your imagination to personalise them. You could even sell them if you have a talent for this.
use less paper,


turn off your consoles.


or produce less personal methane (fart less :P)
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  • Shooting a cheerdance competition with the Nikon D40x, advice?

    I'll be getting the Nikon D40x tomorrow, and as a first time DSLR user, I want the cheerdance competition of my sister to be my first ';project';. As much as possible I want to have good photographs.





    I wonder, since cheerdances are mostly girls moving consistently (dancing), will the D40x capture objects/people in motion accurately without problems? Are there any settings I need to adjust in the camera?





    Any advice would help!:)Shooting a cheerdance competition with the Nikon D40x, advice?
    In addition to the pointers above, you can consider using the continuous shooting mode, which will give you about 3 frames per second. See page 32 of your user manual (or ';Shooting Modes, continuous'; in the index, if it's not on page 32) for more information. Don't try to take a frame-by-frame video of the whole event, but use the camera in short bursts when something is happening that you want to capture. This will make it much more likely that you WILL get that peak of the jump or whatever. Shoot of 3-5 frames when you think you want to capture that ';moment'; in time and you probably will get it.





    It's not cheerleaders, but check out http://www.flickr.com/photos/samfeinstei鈥?/a> The sequence comes up backwards, so ';read'; from right to left. This goose landing was captured in a burst lasting only one second. Actually, I was using 3 frames per second, so the time from the first image to the last was exactly one second. Things happen quickly! (Zero, 1/3 sec, 2/3 sec, 1 second.)





    You will NEED a larger card than the camera comes with and you will need a decent write speed if you are going to use continuous mode. You want at least a 2 GB SD memory card. I recommend a genuine Sandisk Ultra II (60X) or Extreme III (133X). Lexar is another excellent card supplier and they have the ';Professional'; 133X as well as the Platinum 80X to choose from. Both Lexar and Sandisk come with image recovery software and limited lifetime warranties. Nikon recommends these brands, as well as Toshiba and Panasonic. The manual states, ';Operation is not guaranteed with other makes of cards.';Shooting a cheerdance competition with the Nikon D40x, advice?
    As I see it, you will have no problem with it. Many experts say that it is one of the best of Nikon 's Models. Oh, and also, if it can't capture the picture without bluring, then try reading the manual for the settings you can change. Although sometimes when you do that the quality might not be the best but it will not make a blurry picture.
    Just get as close as you can to the front!


    and of course practice, and play around with the settings!!


    Although for moving subjects - putting the camera in the mode 'Shutter Priority' (S) and finding a speed that suites.
    You will need to use a high ISO - 800, maybe 1600. If the camera has Noise Reduction use it. If not you'll have to use an after-market program to ';clean up'; images shot at ISO 1600. (Your images will have a lot of ';digital noise'; at ISO 1600.)





    You'll need that high of an ISO to keep your shutter speed at a minimum of 1/125; 1/250 would be better. This will allow you to capture the continuous movement of the competition.





    Try a few with intentional blur with a slower shutter speed. It shows movement and can be especially effective if there are stationary figures in the background.





    Watch for ';peak'; moments - when the cheerleader is at the top of a jump or during a back flip.





    You didn't say what lens you'll be using but its likely you'll be at or close to wide open (f2.8? f3.5?) so focus will be critical. Unless you have the Nikon AF-S or AF-I lenses you will have to use manual focus.





    Turn your flash off - it will be useless in the gym.





    A monopod could be useful.
    I just want to chime in and say that the other have done a good job explaining what to do.





    Come early to get a good spot





    Your flash will be useless depending on the distance between you and the dancing cheerleader





    Bring a tripod (or a monopod if there's not much space around you). It won't freeze the cheerleader's action but you still might get a motion blur effect out of them.





    Sometimes I would let myself undercompensate my picture for -1/3 to -2/3 EV and let Photoshop brighten the picture afterwards but I only use that as one of the last option. Most of the time the overall color will be really unnatural.





    I usually use manual setting or shutter priority but that's just me.
    As always it isn't the camera but the photographer. But the photographer need able camera. D40x can do that.





    I own a D70 and if D40x is anything near like the D70 then you would have no problems. Just learn these things:





    ISO setting


    Manual exposure


    Shutter priority





    Unless you can get very close to stage you will have to depend on the stage lighting. In my experience the stage light is very bright and you would not have much problem with light levels.





    You will need to use higher ISO setting to be able to stop motion. I believe that ISO 800 is very usable setting. Don't trust the LCD. Everything looks good in that tiny screens.





    Learn to use the manual exposure and shutter priority. You will find that if the background color is very dark or light, you will end up with wrong exposure. So then you will have to kick it in manual exposure.





    No matter what don't promise any thing for the first time around. Anytime you use new equipment at new setting, use the first time as an experimentation.





    Good Luck.
    Your question makes me respond with -- it depends.





    If you will be shooting indoors, then you will have an available light issue. To shoot things like this you'll need fast glass(f/1.8 or f/2.8) and probably a zoom lens that is fast at that. If it's like any of the cheerleading competitions I've been to, you'll not be able to get as close as you'd like. I'm guessing that the kit lens you're getting with the D40x will not be fast enough. The camera is capable, but here we are talking about the lens not being up to the challenge.





    Flash is probably not allowed, or even if it is, you'll not be close enough or it to be of any use.





    You'll need a fast shutter speed, probably in the 1/125th to 1/500th of a second range, which means a large aperture and high ISO.





    Believe it or not, even though you think that the lights in a gymnasium are ';bright';...they are not to a camera lens. Your eyes adjust to the dim light pretty fast and have more range than film or a digtial sensor.





    Nopw, if you luck out and this is outside, and you have a nice bright sunny day or even better an overcast day...then you should be good to go. Your only issue then is range. If you fget the 18-55mm kit lens, you might need something longer, as you might still run into the issue of how close you can get to the floor.





    Good luck.

    Any advice on how to quit smoking tobacco?

    I feel anxious without a cigarette. No money for gum or medications, and no interest, either.Any advice on how to quit smoking tobacco?
    well..





    can tell you the only thing that worked for me was finding a support group.. im a member of nicotine anonymous, and Attend meetings both online, and locally... online voice meetings are as close as your computer.. there is really no wrong way to quit.. however you decide to proceed good luck!!!








    Nicotine Anonymous is a Non-Profit 12 Step Fellowship of men and women helping each other live nicotine-free lives. Nicotine Anonymous welcomes all those seeking freedom from nicotine addiction, including those using cessation programs and nicotine withdrawal aids. The primary purpose of Nicotine Anonymous is to help all those who would like to cease using tobacco and nicotine products in any form. The Fellowship offers group support and recovery using the 12 Steps as adapted from Alcoholics Anonymous to achieve abstinence from nicotine.Any advice on how to quit smoking tobacco?
    1. Look into the different self-help ways to quit smoking. Some of them can be done without spending any amount.


    2. Pick a quit date. Choose one when you are not stressed.


    3. When you stop smoking, be sure to have exercise every day. It's one of the best ways to relieve yourself from the stress of not being able to smoke and is very good to keep you fit.


    4. Join stop smoking programs. It helps a lot to be with people who are undergoing the same situation you are in. You can start a support group for each other to help you in your battle against smoking.
    First of all YOU have to want to quit, not your partner, or parents or whomever. Pick a date not too far ahead as ';Q Day'; The day before smoke yourself silly. Make sure that when you go to bed that night there are no smokes left in the house, all the ashtrays are clean and out of sight, throw out the lighters and matches and make sure to dump the most disgusting mess of garbage possible on top of any butts you've put in the garbage can.


    Okay ';Q Day';


    If you used to have black coffee and a smoke first thing, try tea.


    If you used to have a beer and a smoke after work, try wine. Change your habits.


    Not everyone quits forever the first time. If you backslide just try again.


    It's a hard addiction to beat. After 30 years as an ex-smoker my Dad still wanted a smoke everytime he had a beer.


    You can do it if YOU want it.


    Good luck
    Then you are probably not serious enough to quit. But if you want to try, what you do is throw your cigarettes away. Some people will be OK, not everyone is heavily addicted or even addicted at all. Some people will rapidly discover why they're called ';addictive.';
    Go buy some skoal and throw in some bombs
    staying busy and snacks can help a lot

    Need advice from girls that know to get my ex girlfriend back?

    So females give me some concrete ways to get my ex girlfriend back we were together for 6 yrs. She left 8 months ago because she felt neglected. I love her and need good advice on how to get her back.Need advice from girls that know to get my ex girlfriend back?
    You mention that she left because she felt neglected. Some people don't have a clue why their partner left so at least she told you.





    Now you've got to decide how you can show and prove that you will take her feeling/opinions etc into consideration. Don't make her feel like second best.





    I'm on the verge of a break up if my boyfriend doesn't stop taking me for granted. We have been together for just over 6 years. It's easy to lose what you had in the early stages of your relationship if you don't communicate.





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    Happy Valentine.
    send her a simple card and write a letter to her its more personable and honest than email or text..nothing beats a hand written note. tell her how much you messed up and how much you changed at the same time tell her you love her no matter what she chooses.. thats real love and women dont want fakes
    write her a letter about how much you love her and miss her and how you realize you effed up...if she doesn't respond you gotta move on...it sucks but you can't expect her to come back to you ! good luck !
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    I guess I am a little late on answering this but I hope that my advice helps! Go get her! :) lol

    What advice do you want to give your current boyfriend/husband, to make him a better one?

    What advice do you want to give your current boyfriend/husband, to make him a better one?What advice do you want to give your current boyfriend/husband, to make him a better one?
    Totally agree with Indiegyrl, I also said that recently to my BF.... that he had stopped having those nice gestures he used to have when we first started dating. Also, I wish he wasn't as cheap.... he never wants to spend in us and also expects me to pay half of everything even though I lost my job a couple of months ago (he isn't working either), and that really makes me mad. And last but not least, I would love for him to be a better communicator, whenever we have an argument he just shuts himself up and refuses to talk or say anything, and sometimes this can go on for days. He says he'd rather not say anything than to fight, but I guess this way we will never solve our differences civilly and efectively.... you need to talk to sort out different opinions! That would be it I guess....What advice do you want to give your current boyfriend/husband, to make him a better one?
    Well no one is perfect. I'm far from perfect myself, but if I were to suggest something to my BF, I'd suggest more of the little gestures that he did at the beginning, if only to elicit more of what he wants from me. The fact that he does those things less doesn't motivate me to do the little things as much either.

    Any advice on how to stay out of gossip at work?

    I work in a small store with about fifteen people that are employed there. There is constant complaints about everyone else in the store. Even if it doesnt involve me at all people will flock to me and tell me. Anyways, it urges me to want to talk badly about people too and I hate it. Ever been in this situation and do you have any advice? I have tried to just be the silent worker, but then people will start gossiping about me that I am depressed and stuff. Bleh....I should just smack everyone with a brick.Any advice on how to stay out of gossip at work?
    Yes I certainly have been in this situation. There will always be a gossiper among those you work with...and there will always be that one person who enjoys listening and contributing to it as well. Oh, and you probably may know about that one person who will be a hipocrite and act as if there your friend and will talk about everyone but then when that persons around ';those'; whom were in there gossip convo of the day... they will be there right hand best friend, and may even end up putting u in wrong. If you tell me its just like being bi polar, scary, %26amp; unprofessional. So heres what I do... I always mind my own business. Never add more wood to the fire, and yes it is true...If you do tend to keep to urself 'cause ur just so fed up with the gossip..Eventually you'll end up being ';thee'; person who will be gossiped about. I go to work to ';work'; not to make friends or win a popularity contest and you should too..just nod your head yes or no if they start gossiping or straight out tell them...';Look Im sure its interesting but Im here to do my job and I don't want to get involved'; There are those who wont like ur straight forward attitude, but at the end of the day...just shows that they are the people who really care about what others think. Since u work with a small group...it tends to be worse. Just stay focused on what u do..Iv'e always been a very busy person and I focus on what is going to better my life, and I rather not deal with people who naturally bicker all the time. Im content with myself and when u do get the urge to gossip...stay focused on your job, do your best give 110%!... at the end...it matters what your doing to make ';yourself'; better.Any advice on how to stay out of gossip at work?
    The key to avoiding this type of things is to try and be positive about everyone and all different types of situations. Sometimes it's difficult, but honestly if you try to put a positive spin on the negative all the time people will quit complaining about people, just knowing that you are the type of person that likes to see the best in people will push others away.





    Another things is to never initiate the gossip, if you ever do this people will think you're interested in what they have to say about other people.





    Stick to your work and avoid the ';water cooler'; talk. Good Luck