Saturday, July 31, 2010

How do you politely tell a friend with no children that you neither want or need their advice?

I have 2 wonderful children ages 12 and 14. My friend has no children, but has babysat in the past and has had a couple of psychology classes and read some child-rearing books. Her superior attitude is really annoying, especially now that I am expecting #3. How can I handle her wihout hurting her feelings? I know she means well but it's annoying.How do you politely tell a friend with no children that you neither want or need their advice?
Ha ha I don't know, I guess the same way you'd tell people with no children to stay off the P%26amp;P section trying to give advice!!How do you politely tell a friend with no children that you neither want or need their advice?
omg, tell her to shutup.


i hate when people act self righteous about stuff when they dont even have kids....


e.g a friend of mine was telling me what big deal it is to have kids, u can never just go out to the pubs anymore blah blah blah, and i said, HELLO i have a kid... and she goes oh yeah, so u know.


its funny how people who know too much about nothing have the most to say...


just tell her her advice is useless. because it is.
I don't think there is any way to do it without hurting her feelings. The best thing you can do is ignore her and limit your exposure. She hasn't realized that she can either have friends or be right.
tell her no book can honestly make you a good mother , otherwise tell her that next time youll ge the book to babysit i know it sounds harsh but you dont need that ,


thats like all these midwives who read books but have no kids try and tell you yoru doing everything so wrong i dont think so and i wouldnt put up with it
tell her that you know these things already because you already have children and you know best on how to raise them.
Open your mind a little. Someone had this as their signature a few years back and it made sense. ';Sometimes the best parenting advice is from those that have no children';. To answer your question just change the subject every time she puts her two sense in, she will get the hint. Also do not bring up issues you are having if you do not want the advise.
Next time in conversation Just say '; yeh you've been there twice already'; and everyone has there own opinion about raising there own children? she may get the hint if you say it like i know ive been there!
say ';i'll think about what you've said'; and then let it go.





or remind her that you are a parent, and you are managing just fine. you value her opinion and will seek advice from her when you need it.





tell her what you really need is a friend who is fun to be around and who can listen without offering solutions to problems.

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